Question To the ardent 'shippers

If you are an ardent 'shipper who thinks that Buffy can only ever be happy with *insert name here*, that Angel forever belongs with *whomever* or that Xander lost his only ticket to happyland when he left Anya at the altar, do you also believe that there is just one true love to be found for each and every one of us? Do you believe in the idea of "Mr/Ms Right"?

Oh..yes. It pains me to say it but yeah I do think there's one guy out their whose just for me, so hands off okay?! ahaha.
Which is weird because I don't really like all those kinds of films or really buy in to the whole romantic fairy tale boy meets girl lives happily ever after.
But in reality I'll probably end up living alone being a crazy cat lady so by the time he comes along he wont look at me twice.

Hmm... no. No, I think that you meet someone and fall in love, but I don't believe that you are "destined" to meet that person because you are "soulmates" or whatever. However, I do think that two people can be "soulmates" in the sense that they are perfect for each other.

I'm a Spuffy shipper but I don't really care if they end up together in the comics. In my brain the show ended and that's that. I don't believe in one true love, not even a little bit. I think people have a great capacity for love, and if one doesn't work out there's always another to be found.

No I don't think that 'the one' actually exists. I think there are many 'ones' with whom we might find potential happiness - it just depends on circumstances and where you are in your own life which 'one' you end up with.

I believe that it's possible that, within the course of your life, it is not only possible, but quite likely, that someone could fall sincerely in love with more than one person. I also believe that it is quite possible to be in love with more than one person at the same time. That's not to say that there aren't some people in the world who never meet and fall in love with one person, and one person only, in their entire lives, but rather that the capacity to love, or be in love, if you want to make the distinction between the two, is limitless within the human soul.

I like to belive that. I like that Mr./Mrs. Perfect really does exist, just they are not really perfect. Love is to accept other one flaws and making them into something good and cute. I'm a romantic person, and yeah I do belive everyone has person who is right for them in this world 🙂

I'd love to believe that there is a special someone out there for everyone but I think it's more a case of when you really need someone in your life they will show up weither it be a friend or a lover there will always be somoene in your life that makes a difference.

miromurr said:

If you are an ardent 'shipper who thinks that Buffy can only ever be happy with *insert name here*, that Angel forever belongs with *whomever* or that Xander lost his only ticket to happyland when he left Anya at the altar, do you also believe that there is just one true love to be found for each and every one of us? Do you believe in the idea of "Mr/Ms Right"?

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I think I qualify as a "ardent 'shipper." 😉

No, I don't believe in soul mates in RL, or in there being a "true love" for everyone. Not really. I believe there are many people out there who are compatible with more then one person, for sure. Personally, I'm not waiting around for a true love, or Mr. Right. But I do like the idea of it. For me, fiction is a idealized version of life a lot of the time. Spuffy, Bangel, Fresley, whatever - all of these are idealized "forever" loves. Regarding the fiction that I keep close to my heart, I look for what I don't see in life. That's what interests me. This is one of the reasons I like fantasy so much. On the other hand though, what's real and true is what fiction is about, so...it's hard to say.

My personal beliefs about relationships do not dictate who and why I've chosen my favorite 'ships. I like Spuffy because I think they're interesting - not because I necessarily desire a relationship like that in my RL.

I think people think of that "one true love" thing as romantic. But I think it's sad. Depressing even. Something happens and it doesn't work out or they die or something, and you're doomed to never love again? That's terrible. I'm really glad I don't believe that!

I believe that people can fall in and out of love and that no two loves are the same, I do however, believe that there can be that "one" person who just "fits" you and you them. I think those that actually find their perfect fit are not only few and far between but incredibly luckly. I don't know if I believe in soulmates but I am not against the idea of it.

Mostly, I believe that if you are gona be in love and live in love it should be the greatest love you are capable of and you in turn should receive the greatest love your partner is capable of. I don't like the idea of settling from anything less than that.

In the Buffyverse I believe Buffy/Angel were eachother's perfect fit. Not because they were first but because they were the "greatest" expression of love that either of them either gave or recieved, IMO.

I dont believe that you have a soulmate. I believe out of all the people there is certain people thats suited to you. But i really think plenty fish in the sea is a true saying.

Like Kean, I think that there is one person with whom you can share and experience everything that love has to offer. The one person that no matter what, will always have your heart. And it doesn't mean that you can't love someone else for whatever reason that may happen but I do believe that no other love will ever be as great as that 'one'.

And you might have been with, and loved, twenty people but don't meet that 'one' until your seventy-five or if you're incredibly unlucky you never meet them. Some people are lucky enough for that one love to be their first.

But Shakespeare says it better than me:

Let me not to the marriage of true minds
Admit impediments. Love is not love
Which alters when it alteration finds,
Or bends with the remover to remove:
O no! it is an ever-fixed mark
That looks on tempests and is never shaken;
It is the star to every wandering bark,
Whose worth's unknown, although his height be taken.
Love's not Time's fool, though rosy lips and cheeks
Within his bending sickle's compass come:
Love alters not with his brief hours and weeks,
But bears it out even to the edge of doom.
If this be error and upon me proved,
I never writ, nor no man ever loved.

But what do I know, eh? I'm young and a romantic and I couldn't possibly know 😉 But Shakespeare's the don so that's enough for me. And being a romantic beats being a cynic for me 🙂

I don't believe in soulmates. Look at all the divorces. I cannot excuse all of them because it was just not their soulmate. We heal, move on and fall in love again. People can love different people, we can be compatible with different people and love them in different ways IMO.

I'm an ardent Bangel shipper in that I occasionally find myself yelling at the TV screen "that's because your true love is BUFFY!!!" whenever I know that Angel's particular bout of broodiness that episode is due to forgetting that piece of information, or visa versa for Buffy.

However, I don't believe that we're only destined for one person in the real world. I believe that there are many people with whom we can find a deep connection and create long term, loving, supportive, fulfilling lives. The reason I get so invested in it in this verse is because it's a FANTASY, and a very compelling one.

I kind of believe in one true love and love at first sight, but a lot of it has to do with timing.

I like to use the plot of Imagine Me and You as an example. (An amazing film, and it has Anthony Stewart Head! 😛)

A woman just got married to her apparent true love. She then sees a woman at her wedding, and falls in love with her. Not only did she leave her husband, but she changed sexual orientation just because she thought she was deeply, madly in love with this woman she had JUST met.

Of course, you can't run up to someone and jump on them... you have to wait. You can't end a marriage for something that may or may not be true love... you have to wait and see.

I hope that makes sense lol.

AND IT'S MY THOUSANDTH POST! (thousandth is not a word, I'm well aware ;P)

It is possible to fall in love with more than one person in your lifetime...but I do believe that there is one person who is perfect FOR YOU and you for HIM/HER.

People are not perfect, we are simple human beings...but sometimes you get the chance to find that one person with whom you fit perfectly, you complement each other greatly and it feels like you can't love anyone more than that person.Differences always exist but somehow you find that two souls,two hearts,two bodies fit perfectly and great happiness is achieved. Can that be named a soulmate? Maybe. Then I do believe in soulmates.

I support Bangel cause IMO is the only ship that I can actually feel the love between them, sense the way they complement and sense each other. In my eyes they are soulmates...it is possible to find happiness with other people too. But for Angel it will always be Buffy and for Buffy it will always be Angel.