I have deep, deep issues with Beauty & The Beasts. The whole episode is completely messed up and heavy-handed and I hate the message that they're trying to get across; that all men have beast in them.
I am very uncomfortable with the notion that "all men are beasts" because it's simply not true. It is not true that every man, deep down, is misogynistic and violent and inherently "beast-like." A similar message is portrayed in the AtS episode Billy and in both instances it's just so messed up. I'm not even sure why Joss wanted to portray said message - does he really believe it, or is this part of his need to portray himself as a "feminist". Is he saying that all men are beasts to show that women, by comparison, are all angels? Is he trying to excuse domestic abuse and violence by giving men an in-built excuse of "it's always there, women just bring it out"? It's a messed up, incorrect and just puzzling message to send.
Perfect. Nothing even needs to be said. Perfect sentiment
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That aside, I also cannot stand how Buffy handles Debbie. I get that Joss was trying to draw a parallel between Debbie & Pete and Buffy & Angel, but it doesn't really hold up. Angel and Buffy did not have an abusive relationship. Pete and Debbie do. Debbie is a typical domestic abuse victim; she adjusts her behaviour to suit Pete, she goes along with what he says, she is scared of him and at the same time loves him and the way Buffy victim-blames her is appalling. I also hate that she physically reprimands Debbie, right off the tail-end of Debbie receiving a brutal beating from Pete. Who's smart idea was that?
It's gross really, that in a show that prides itself on feminism, our heroine victim-blames an abusive victim and shows no compassion, empathy or understanding towards said victim. Instead, Pete's wrongdoings are put on Debbie's head and the abuse she has suffered is all but ignored. It's really quite disgusting.
I agree completely that the parallels between Debbie/Pete and Buffy/Angel just don't work simply because they aren't compatible at all. You outlined it brilliantly.
And while I agree whole-heartedly that Buffy's...um..."approach" to dealing with Debbie was pretty stupid, I do have a question, and I think it's one this episode was trying (emphasize
trying) to ask.
No one ever,
ever deserves that type of relationship, and only someone truly twisted or truly ignorant would think otherwise. However, it does raise a question about Debbie (and, I suppose by the incredible lack of subtly in the episode, abusive relationships in general). At what point should we, as an audience, stop feeling sympathetic towards her? This is a blunt metaphor, but I think it fits (and please, feel free to point me otherwise if it doesn't). I equate it to being around an aggressive dog. The first time the dog bites, you didn't know, you couldn't have known, and it isn't on you. But every ensuing time you touch the dog and it bites you? You knew. You just knew. I know Debbie is young, dumb and in love, but shouldn't she, at some point in time, have the degree of intelligence to realize what's happening? It isn't ambiguous. He's beating the hell out of her. I mean, Rhianna gets her face turned to mush by Chris Brown, goes back to him and then tells the world that we "don't understand so stop hatin'' (I'm paraphrasing).
I can't feel sorry for her after that. I don't want anything to happen to her. If it happens again I want Brown locked up like he should have been the first time, but she knew what he was, knew he what he was doing and went back anyways. Why should I feel sympathy towards her now? She doesn't "deserve" anything to happen to her, of course not, but she, and Debbie in the episode, is essentially just negligent now.
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(EDIT: And I would like to add, this isn't intended, at all, to be victim blaming. I have never been in an abusive relationship myself so I am fully aware that I can't possibly fully understand the mindset of someone who is or has been in one, the stress it causes or the thoughts and feelings it brings out. I'm just pointing out what I hope is seen as an objective, constructive question, because it truly is something I don't understand. I don't mean to come across as insensitive, and I hope I'm not perceived that way)